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Melanie Rossiter Doula, Hypnobirthing, Pregancy Massage or Maternity Reflexology
in Hitchin, Letchworth, Welwyn and Stevenage
Online, Group and Private Courses

Hypnobirthing/Postnatal Support Pack. postnatal

Hypnobirthing/Postnatal Support Pack

'Thank you so much for everything, I definitely benefited from the course and was doing my breathing and bits throughout to stay calm and relax! x Abi, Stotfold


I offer an online digital package that you can go at your own pace with, I also offer group and private courses. Please visit my new website click here to purchase this option. Click here to go straight to my online course page.

You might decide you would prefer to do the online course if the hours of the group and private courses do not suit you. You can also watch, listen to, and read the content as much as you want, as well as it being the most affordable option.

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The online version includes:

- 8 online videos, such as this one below.



- 10 MP3s

- Printable E-book

- 4 Printable PDFs

You can Click here to find out more about the topics covered.

What course should I choose?

A group course is great if you want to meet other pregnant women and make friends who could become friends for life. You can support each other as your babies arrive.

My private courses differ as I bespoke them to your needs and your personal wishes. This includes if you are having a caesarean or you have had a traumatic birth previously. I am able to give more personal attention and build a good relationship as you enter motherhood.

The online course is the most affordable option and you can watch and read the content as much as you want and when you want.

You also receive the online course when you purchase the group or private course.

To find out more about the online hypnobirthing and the postnatal support pack please click here

I trained with fertility2birth's Juliet Hollingsworth who is the author of 'hypnobirth yourself' she is a guiding light on the birth experience.
Some of your questions answered from the fertility2birth course, click here.

Reflexology and massage have been shown to be very effective when used in labour, this is why I use them in addition to the course. I also include techniques from Suzanne Yates who is a world-reknowned expert in supporting pregnancy & birth.

Your questions answered:

Who should do a hypnobirthing course?

One of the biggest misconceptions about hypnobirthing is the idea that it is only for certain birth options. For example, some women have asked me if it’s for mums who are planning to have home births with no pain relief. My answer is that it is for ALL women and ALL birthing decisions and outcomes, this is at least how I work. It will also help and support you if you do not want pain relief. Many women who hypnobirth find they do not need it but it is there as an option and you shouldn’t feel that you have somehow ‘failed’ if you decide you want it. We certainly don’t need competition and judgements in the way we approach labour and birth and should all make the choices that feel right to us after weighing up our options.
I truly advocate for a positive birth experience rather than a particular way of baby being born into the world. Caesaerean Sections and interventions can lead to positive birth experiences and natural vaginal deliveries can lead to negative birth experiences or can be traumatic depending on what is occurring with mum (especially with fear and anxiety), baby and whether she feels safe in her environment (including the people she has around her). A natural vaginal delivery where the environment and conditions are good, and mum is calm and relaxed throughout, holds the potential for an incredibly euphoric and empowering experience. But if this cannot be attained for medical or other reasons it doesn’t mean that you can’t still have a beautiful and empowering experience. Ultimately women need to feel safe and heard in labour.


What if it doesn’t work? Will I have wasted my money?

As far as we can see the fear that it will not work is the only reason that people would not want to take the HypnoBirth course. The HypnoBirth course is about being in control and preparing for the birth of your baby in the best way possible. Yes, many of our clients choose to take the course because they do not want to take pain relief drugs, or they do not want any medical intervention. However many of our couples just want to be as prepared as possible. The majority of couples that we work with have births requiring no medical intervention and pain relief, however some have had a little intervention. In these cases the couples have said they are so glad they did the course as it allowed them to remain calm, relaxed and in control whilst there was a lot of drama going on around them

I don’t believe it will work for me

Firstly think about what you want to achieve. Are you looking for an orgasmic birth or do you just want a birth in which you are prepared, calm completely in control and empowered? We cannot guarantee a feeling free birth, but we can give you the techniques to feel calm, in control and totally prepared. The HypnoBirth course is as much about birth preparation – containing a huge amount of medical knowledge – as it is about pain reduction. Treat it like you would any antenatal course, but know that this course is in a comfortable environment, with personal care, so you can ask any questions you want without feeling silly. We find that many of our clients ask us questions that they didn’t feel comfortable asking in the less intimate environment of other antenatal classes. We have the expertise on board to answer any questions for you.

I don’t understand how it will help me

Firstly you will gain a vast amount of medical birthing knowledge from the course. The programme was written by a hypnotherapist, staff from busy maternity units, a small part by a midwife and the rest a surgeon’s assistant. It is therefore important information that all pregnant couples should be told, but are often not. Secondly the course will teach you how to relax using hypnosis. This does not mean you will have to be in a state of hypnosis when giving birth but it means you will be able to remain calm, resulting in a quicker delivery. Did you know when in fear, or stressed, the body automatically goes into the fight or flight response? When in this response labour stops or slows. This can be seen with animals in the wild. If they sense a predator their labour will stop until it is safe again. We teach you how to get back in control of your body so that your body does not kick into this automatic response. Babies born using hypnosis tend to be calmer, feed better, sleep better and experience less trauma, because they are more often than not gently and calmly breathed into the world at their own pace. Scientific research has also shown that the babies usually have higher Agpar scores as well (a measure of how well your baby is doing immediately after the birth, and then five minutes later).

I don’t want to be out of control

This is the exact reason you should take our course. People often think that those in a hypnotic state are out of control, or maybe under the control of the hypnotist. This is as far from the truth as possible. When in hypnosis you are actually very much in control. The HypnoBirth course is all about taking back control. Imagine lying on the beach with the sun shining down on you, not too hot, not too cold, with the sound of waves lapping in the distance. This is hypnosis!

What if I want pain relief?

This is ok, the HypnoBirth course is all about having the birth YOU want and not the birth others tell you to have. If you want pain relief you can have pain relief, but you will be safe in the knowledge that you have made the decision whilst in control and therefore will not regret your decision later on. You will probably find that you will have no need for pain relief anyway, but there are not restrictions on anything you may choose to do.

I had a C-Section last time can I still do the course?

Of course you can. The course is designed more towards a natural birth and we have had successful VBAC deliveries. If you are having a caesarean again, there are still many things in the course that would benefit you. It is worth just mentioning to your hypnotherapist that you are a VBAC mum or if you will be having a caesarean again so that the course can be personalised towards you a little more.

Is the course just for the Mum?

Our course is designed for the birthing Mum and her birth partner. Often the birth partner is the father of the baby but many have a friend, parent or doula. Certain parts of the course require practise at home. This practise creates intimate time between you as a couple and many of our clients have remarked that this is their favourite part of the course. The course enables your birthing partner to become a central part of the birthing process, helping you to stay calm and focus on techniques that you have been taught. This can be even more important if the birthing partner is not the father of the baby as they can feel even more removed from the whole process and ‘useless’. Imagine how close they can feel to you and the baby being an active part of the birthing process.

Who should do the HypnoBirth course?

EVERYONE! We cannot think of anyone that would not benefit from taking the HypnoBirth course. It is educational, informative, enjoyable and achieves great results.

I would love to support and guide you on your journey towards meeting your baby.

Hannah's positive birth story:

I’m not someone who is particularly worried or fearful of things in life, I’ve scuba dived with sharks 🦈 & skydived a couple of times, I’ve Bungee’d off of the largest Bungee in Australasia, we ski, snowboard & love activities like ziplining, white water rafting, motor biking & horseriding BUT I was completely terrified of childbirth & had been all my life!

As soon as we knew we were expecting, I started looking into hypnobirthing & positive birth stories. I needed to get over my fear & try to have control of my birth choices.

We knew we wanted a home birth & I definitely wanted to be in water.

I read 3 specific books:
- Positive Birth Preparation by Melanie Rossiter
- Hypnobirthing: Practical Ways to Make Your Birth Better by Siobhan Miller the Founder of The Positive Birth Company
- The Hypnobirthing Book (KG Hypnobirthing) by Katharine Graves (+ soundtrack cd)

All 3 books were useful & had both similar pieces of advice which helped to cement the information in my brain AND each book also had its own additional unique information that was worth reading too.
I listened to all the available MP3s & any free snippets of videos also available on their websites too. I played something related to hypnobirthing daily. There are lots of positive birth videos available & these are extremely important to watch as much as possible, to help you realise that it can be done in a calm way!

I purchased an essential oil diffuser to diffuse lavender to help me associate it with relaxation (& I purchased Clary Sage essential oil for later on in pregnancy).

I signed up for Lucy Flow Pregnancy Yoga which was brilliant to keep me active but also to give great tips for positions during labour. Lucy also does “Lives” weekly on Instagram & has a Facebook page & these were very useful to watch too.

I started joining Elizabeth Blanch’s free Hypnobirthing sessions once a week when I saw them advertised & very quickly realised that I found her voice & manner so relaxing that I wanted to hear more!!! She’s also such a knowledgable person too & if she doesn’t know an answer, she will go away & research it for you! I joined Lizzy’s online Hypnobirthing course & my husband (Alex) & I learned lots from it! We also met some other expecting parents online which was reassuring, especially as during lockdown we didn’t have any face to face meetings with anybody. Lizzy is so kind & very passionate about Hypnobirthing that she always offered to help throughout the week or if she was free, during the labour, if needed.

I also joined Melanie Rossiter’s online Hypnobirthing course because we booked an in-person session very early in the year, but due to Covid, this was postponed twice, we did eventually manage to have a socially distanced day’s session in July & it was extremely useful. Melanie is lovely, she is passionate & enthusiastic about owning a calm & informed birth & spent the whole day at our house going through anything we wanted to. Alex found this session very informative as all his questions were answered face-to-face in a time where he had not been able to attend the scans or midwife appointments otherwise. We felt much more prepared for the baby’s arrival after our session.

From 34 weeks I had started perineal massage with oil & from 36 weeks I had started using Aniball. I think these really helped me not to tear too.

My EDD was 8th September, I was hoping baby would be at least a week late as I still had lots of work to do & we didn’t feel ready yet! Ha! I was very aware that this date was just an estimate & I knew not to worry about timings & dates in general!

I had been offered sweeps to be booked in for 40+4, 40+6 & 40+8 by my midwife (apparently they’re the offered timings during Covid), & then had been offered to have an induction at 40+10 booked for the 18th September. I knew I didn’t want any inductions or interventions unless absolutely necessary & strongly indicated, so I declined. I was then booked in for an appointment on Thursday 10th September with the “Birth Choices” team because I had declined the induction, this was to be able to come to a compromise.... 🙄 I had read the book “Why Induction Matters” so I was fully informed with the statistics & research knowledge. Needless to say, I didn’t need this appointment! 😂

I remained active & was still horse riding at 40 weeks & still Poo-picking the horse fields, mucking out & walking the dogs, which I’m sure helped with maintaining my overall fitness!

On Wednesday 9th September I was feeling a little bit uncomfortable during the day, I still worked all day at my desk (sitting on the birthing ball) & then in the evening went to our house that we’re doing up (currently living with my parents) & did some clearing up & manual work that evening. When we got home, I had a little bit of dinner, & still had some work to finish on my computer, but thought I’d put the hot water on ready for a bath later as I thought I had Braxton Hicks or cramps. At around 9pm, I was writing a report & thought I was a bit uncomfortable so ran a bath & thought “I’ll finish my report when I get out of the bath”.
When I got into the bath around 9:15pm, I started to feel cramps & my whole abdomen was contracting/going hard.
I started using the Up Breathing to get through these surges as they started to be quite regular & intense but totally bearable. They were more like a period pain wave coming intensely & then having a break in between.
They were coming every 2-3 minutes & lasting around 45 seconds, they were easy enough to deal with when using the breathing techniques. I listened to recorded scripts from Lizzy over & over again which really helped with my mindset & relaxation. I even got to eat a bowl of ice-cream, I just had to put it down each time I had a surge to concentrate & breathe through it, & then ate it in between 😂

I wasn’t sure if this was just the start & if it was going to go on for hours more or if it was just Braxton Hicks, but Alex & I planned to watch a movie & I’d sit on the birthing ball if I needed to, even try to get some sleep.

(I must add at this point, with living with my parents, we planned for them to go away in the Motorhome to give us some time alone, but we didn’t get chance! While I had been in the bath, using Up Breathing & relaxing between surges, my mum popped in & sat on the loo for a chat, then she went to bed just before the next surge came so she wasn’t aware I was having surges (& I didn’t tell them so as not to worry them). Both parents went to bed none the wiser!)

Alex was putting together the baby changing unit 😂 so at 11pm I got out of the bath & went into the bedroom hoping to relax & snooze, but quickly realised that the surges felt quite intense when out of the water & during an intense surge where I was on all fours on the bed I said to Alex “I’m not sure I can do this if it’s going to last another 12 hours or so...”, he reassured me that I could & talked about Up Breathing & knowing that my body is capable of birthing our baby....

I then had a feeling like I needed to go & sit on the loo, when I did, the next surge was a Down Surge, so I quickly realised that where I had said “I’m not sure if I can do this” that I had “hit the famous wall” & was at transition!

Then the surges had changed, they were much more manageable with a more downward function & for me, larger gaps in between to be able to rest & relax.

I then realised we were on the second phase of labour & asked Alex to prepare the pool. I got back in the bath in the meantime.

Alex pumped the pool up (it was already inflated but needed topping up) & then filled it.

I thought I’d try to feel my cervix & I could feel the baby’s head in a membrane, then a few surges later, the bath water went cloudy & then I felt the baby’s head again & I could feel the hair clearly, so realised my waters had broken.
I then got into the birthing pool which was so much more comfortable on my legs & I could fully relax....

Alex had created the most perfect space, with twinkly lights, photos of relaxing places & our chosen playlist on. It was just us two & was a relaxing environment, it all happened quite fast & we didn’t get chance to light the fire or eat any of our snacks!!!! 😂

With each surge I could feel the baby’s head coming further out & stretching the skin & then slipping back inside as the surges ended, the head got further & further each time but I didn’t rush it, I tried hard to Down Breathe or pant during these surges instead of trying to push (the pushing is just something your body does involuntarily). I didn’t want to tear so wanted to be very careful with this stage.

The midwives arrived at 1:30am & were fantastic, they read our birth plan before coming down to the living room to see me & did not interfere with anything, they politely waited until one of my surges finished & then took my blood pressure. They remained very quiet to allow me to stay in the zone. They handed me the Doppler to locate the baby’s heartbeat (it was easier to do it myself) & could see the baby’s head with a mirror.

Over the next few surges I gently used my finger to go around the baby’s head & ease the skin (the ring of fire moment) & with the next surge the head appeared, then there was a feeling of relief, during that break between surges, I could feel the baby moving....with the head out but the body still inside, it was amazing! Then on the next surge, the body came out easily & I pulled him up towards my chest, this was 2:30am. We realised we had a boy! I checked his nose & mouth were clear, he was very relaxed & we waited for him to cry. Alex got in the pool & we had skin to skin time with our baby whilst allowing the cord to continue to pulsate, we waited about half an hour for the cord to finally stop pulsating & then clamped it & Alex cut it.

I then delivered the placenta in one surge which was very easy to deliver.

Alex then took the baby upstairs to meet his Grandparents who hadn’t heard anything & woke up to a new grandchild 😂 & I was examined by the midwives, I had a few grazes & a first degree tear but my perineum was intact & no sutures were needed.

I had already harvested around 15mls of colostrum in the lead up to birth, so had this ready to give baby too.

We had the most magical home & water birth, it was as perfect as it could be! I am so pleased I did all the preparation that I did & am so grateful to Lizzy & Melanie for the Hypnobirthing & to Lucy for the pregnancy Yoga!

We have named our beautiful baby boy Beau Patrick Paul


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